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    GUEST POST: A Prayer for the Lonely Heart

    Thursday, September 5, 2019


    Pour yourself some coffee and open your heart to hear from my SOFH friend, Grace, as she shares what she has learned in the midst of loneliness and allow her prayer to wash love over your heart.
    There are many seasons to singleness. Sometimes we feel engulfed with loneliness, sometimes we are overcome with envy toward those who have what we want, and sometimes—I wish it were more often—we are content, simply, joyfully happy with where God has us and looking toward a promising future, wherever He may send us. But for me, anyway, I find loneliness to be the most frequently-visiting season. 
    Hard Questions
    Loneliness can be frustrating. Christ is supposed to always be with us…right? He even gave us His Spirit during our time on earth. If God is dwelling in us, how can we feel so intensely alone at times?
    Furthermore, why does God allow excruciating heartbreak? Why does He force some of us to sit on the sidelines while those around us enjoy boy/girlfriends and spouses? Why does He give us desires for marriage and families and then not fulfill them?
    Although he was by no means single, King David well understood the grief of loneliness, and he wrestled through many painful questions with God. In fact, Psalm 13 contains some surprisingly bold queries David directed to his Creator: “How long, O LORD? Will You forget me forever? How long will You hide Your face from me?” And in Psalm 22, he asks, “My God, my God, why have You forsaken me? … O my God, I cry by day, but You do not answer…”
    These prayers were borne from immense pain and convey raw emotions toward God—questioning what the author could not understand and challenging the Lord to answer his cries. 
    A Hard Answer
    It is okay to ask God questions like this. He wants to hear our prayers. (Psalm 62:8) But sometimes, we may not get an answer—at least not right away. Or we may get an answer we don’t want.
    Job knew this, and he responded to his trials the best way he could: without sin. “The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away. Blessed be the name of the LORD.” (Job 1:21)
    Everything is the Lord’s. All of us—our hearts, our desires, our loneliness, our pain. Jesus died for it all. It all belongs to Him. 
    A Heavenly Truth
    God does give and He does take away. But while He often takes things away, they are always earthly things. He will never take away His heavenly gifts of peace, comfort, love, joy, and wisdom. These perfect blessings we so desperately need and can’t survive without He “gives generously and without reproach.” (James 1:5)
    We may feel lonely, but we are never alone. We may feel empty, but we are never without God’s love and care, even when we can’t see it. We may feel despondent, but we always have hope. And we have the reward of Christ to look forward to.
    We must press through, dear Christian. We must pray to Him when we’re down in the valley. We must pursue His love when we don’t feel connected to Him. In fact, this is precisely when we must chase after Him the hardest. After all, He isn’t the one who moved.
    An Honest Prayer
    Dear Lord, I am lonely. I’m not always sure how to pray. There are times my faith feels nonexistent, times the sorrows of the world are crushing me and I can’t even breathe. Times I am overwhelmed.
    But at the same time, my faith is determined. I will not stop crying out to You. Holy Spirit, intercede for me with Your unutterable groanings. (Romans 8:26) Jesus, intercede for me as You promise to continually do for those who love You. (Romans 8:34)
    God, I feel defeated. I am at times consumed by my desire for companionship. Cleanse me of this obsession and turn my wandering heart to You. Fill me with Your peace, joy, and love, which You promise, and which You will never take away.
    Right now, You are withholding something I desperately want. But make me desperate for You. Turn my desires to You so that I will delight myself in You and You will give me the desires of my heart—more of You. (Psalm 37:4)
    You know me inside and out. You know my desires and dreams. You know my heart, mind, and soul better than anyone ever could. (Psalm 139) Lord, I trust You with everything. My wants, my sorrows, and my loneliness—they all belong to You. You died for them. Take them, Jesus. I bring them before You and cast them upon Your perfect love. (1 Peter 5:7) Thank You for carrying my griefs and sins so I don’t have to. I love You. Amen.
    He will answer us, dear sisters. We must fight the good fight, finish the course, and keep the faith even when we are at our loneliest. And the God of all peace will be with us. He is by our side. He intercedes for us. And He will never let us go no matter how lonely we feel. We are never alone.
    Grace is an Indiana native and the owner of Writing Life, a writing and editing service. She has a deep love of Christian filmmaking and works on set as a script supervisor whenever she can. An office supplies hoarder, she is an organization fiend at work and a little more "relaxed" at home. She loves her Savior and she loves people, and she is always looking to make new connections. A few of her favorite things are coffee, deep conversations, and long walks.

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