Grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and read about Singled Out sister, Nancy, and what God taught her during her season of singleness.
We women love, love, love to make plans. And for most of us, getting married at some point in our twenties, or early thirties, is a part of that. But what happens when, despite our best intentions, God doesn’t give us what we want? What do we do then?
I don’t mind telling you my struggle with this and about the times loneliness took over. I wanted to be married. Many days I was angry because I couldn’t have what I wanted. One year after another passed by and being alone felt painful. Women around me were getting married . . . why couldn’t I have what they had? So, I rushed things by going on dates, doing my part, making myself desirable and pushing the idea of marriage. After all – it’s what I wanted. Looking back at all the blind dates, internet rendezvous and relationships doomed from the start – it was such a waste of time.
Please don’t mistake me. I’m not saying “don’t internet date” or not date at all. But if you know in your heart God is going to bring that special ‘one’ - meant just for you - why bother with running ahead of God? Going where He tells you to go is always the best thing. Even if it means waiting. So what do you tell your heart in the season of being alone when what you want most is to be married?
Here are three ways you can make the most of your singleness:
1) The most important thing you can do is - give it to God. He hears you. From one sister to another . . . the times I felt the most content was when I leaned fully on Him. It was a significant learning experience. Trusting God helped shape me. And when I chose to give my loneliness to Him and the hurt of feeling like I wasn’t accepted in certain social circles, He always met me where I was at. He met me with love; He saw my tears and comforted me.
2) Another solution that really helped my loneliness was deepening my relationships with other sisters - women who were also single. One of my most special relationships has been with a dear sister who loves God and has been single for thirty years. She’s still waiting for her husband faithfully!
3) Last but not least - I highly recommend having fun! Do that thing you’ve always wanted to do! Travel. Take a course. Develop yourself by figuring out your own interests . . . and trust in the One who made you.
You won’t be sorry because sixteen years after figuring this all out, my husband did come along, and He was so worth the wait. God is so good! Do you believe you are worth the wait?
Nancy loves home decor, a good antique find, and the joy of the little things. She is a lover of Jesus and wildly in love with her husband. She is a firm believer that life can be both beautiful and hard at the same time. Nancy has been through a lot in this life, and she can say confidently there is always hope and freedom on the other side. As a recovering CEO and single mom for 16 years, she is now mom and stepmom to 9 wild ones. Formerly an Executive Coach, Nancy found a desire to coach other women into the freedom and strength that has all along existed inside of them. You can follow along with her here: https://nancyriegel.com/blog
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