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    Loneliness

    Thursday, April 25, 2019


    A few months ago, I was babysitting two sweet little girls and, over pizza and a bowl of ice cream, the questions started coming.


    Girls: “How many kids do you have?”
    Me: “I don’t have any.”


    Girls: “Do you have a husband?”
    Me: “Nope.”


    Girls: “You’re not married! Do you have a boyfriend?”
    Me: “No.”


    I’m starting to squirm a little bit. Why am I letting these questions from 5 and 9 year-olds bother me? I find myself not measuring up - even in their eyes. I find myself not fitting into their frame of mind of where I should be because I am an adult after all! And with being an adult comes a spouse and children. Right?


    A few more questions were asked “Do you live alone? Do you have friends?” etc. Finally, the conversation ended and we moved on to American Girl dolls and Bitty Babies. My mind, however, still lingered on the exchange we had.


    Later that night, the parents came home as I was putting them to bed. The mom came into the room with the littlest girl and we all said our good nights. Right before the mom shut the door, the little girl yelled out with a hint of panic in her voice, “Mom! Miss Lauren is ALL ALONE.”


    This five year old was concerned for me about something we all fear: loneliness.


    Loneliness. The word even sounds cold. If we were honest, I believe we would all share that we fear this feeling. It’s not that we aren’t ok being alone at times, but it’s different when you start to feel as if your life is defined as solitary, lonesome, desolate. Susan Scutti reports that “loneliness tends to peak in the late 20s, mid-50s, and late 80s . . . The late 20s is often a period of major decision-making, which is often stressful because you often end up feeling that your peers made better decisions than you did, and there's a lot of guilt about why you did this or did that” (CNN article, link below).


    The Truth is . . . we can be lonely in any season of life. We can be lonely in singleness. We can be lonely in dating. We can be lonely in marriage. We can be lonely in a room full of people.


    So if your relationship status doesn’t fix loneliness and being around people doesn’t help it, what does?


    Wisdom.


    I was reading an article on the correlation between wisdom and loneliness and was amazed at how, despite the secular source, biblical the research was. (The Bible is true. Why should we marvel when science and research proves it to be true?) One of the researchers found that “people who have high levels of wisdom didn't feel lonely, and vice versa” (CNN article). Interesting. It reminds me of Proverbs 4:6, “Do not forsake [wisdom], and she will keep you; love her, and she will guard you.”


    So where is wisdom found? In the Bible. Who gives wisdom? God. “Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God—who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly—and it will be given to him.” James 1:5


    As I drove home that rainy Friday night, I thanked God that while the world or well meaning children might look at my circumstance - no husband, no kids, no boyfriend - I can rest in the fact that I am not alone. The wisdom of His Word shows me that He will never leave me nor forsake me. And I smile and pray that this little girl will fall asleep knowing that her heavenly Father is with her as well.



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