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    The One

    Thursday, March 7, 2019


    The One. We’ve all heard it - whether from the movies or from family or friends. “I immediately knew that he was the one.” It leaves us wondering when our “One” will come along. We date with the question lingering in the back of our minds. Is he the one?


    There are many opinions and debates concerning this and I believe - Yes there is the One and No there isn’t the One. Make sense? Good.

    God is the God of orchestrated details. I look at events in my life and see God’s hands all over them. I believe He presents us with the opportunity of a God-ordained path but we are free to take the opportunity or not. For example, I pray for an opportunity to talk with a girl in my small group before she leaves; she leaves the house only to realize that she’s forgotten something and has to return. It’s an opportunity to seize so I take it. This is a God-ordained moment. Do I have to take it? No. Would it be best to take it? Yes. Does God have a good plan despite my actions? Yes.


    God is in the small, details and decisions of life so why would He not be in the big details and decisions? I believe He has the best plan and intentions for us and presents us with the option to take action but He gives us the freedom to choose. If we don’t take advantage of His best plan, then His best plan will still flesh out in another way.

    The One is a cultural concept. In Biblical times and in many cultures around the world still today, marriages are arranged. If a man is from a good family, has the means, and follows the same religion then it is a good marriage match. Marriage really is about reflecting Christ and the Church and not fulfilling our own desires. The beauty (and perhaps the anxiety) of being in a culture which allows you to choose a spouse is that we have freedom. Too often, though, preferences become non-negotiables and we miss out on a godly mate (see my Instapost on Looking for a John Piper). The Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked so we automatically know if someone is not a believer then he is not “the One” at that time. As long as he follows Jesus, the rest is just preferences.


    The concept of The One should not result in fear of missing out on marrying the right one. Follow God’s leading in your life in all areas. Pray. Ask for wisdom. Surround yourself with godly people who can speak into your life.


    Once you’re married, he becomes the one. “‘Til death do us part.” Marriage is a covenant relationship and is intended to be for life. You will sometimes hear people justify affairs or divorce because they have suddenly stumbled upon their soulmate. This is a lie Satan uses to destroy marriage. Once you marry, that person is the One God has for you. Jesus says in Matthew 19:4-6 “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”


    The One is also the wrong person. Timothy Trudeau beautifully says that “as we commit, we must remember that we are the wrong person (Romans 3:23)! That is what makes marriage so glorious. A ‘wrong’ person commits to another ‘wrong’ person. Where would the glory be in a commitment to someone who is flawless?” We have all fallen short and will all continue to be sinful until we are one day gloriously redeemed by Jesus. Remember that when we are praying for “the One” God would have us marry, that he will be in a state of spiritual progress not perfection just as we are also in.


    Regardless of if you believe in “the one” or if you remain single, you can be sure that Jesus will always be The One. This is a topic that will be debated for years to come. The only surety of this concept that we have is that Jesus will always be The One. “For God loved the world in this way: He gave His ONE and only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 He is the One that offers eternal life, will never leave you or forsake you, will love you despite your faults, sacrifices His life for you, and so much more than “the one” earthly man could ever offer.


    Jesus is the One is not a cultural concept; it’s for the world. Jesus is the One that invades the small and big details of life. Once Jesus is the One in your life, He will always be, even after death parts you from this earth.


    Whether you believe in “the one” or not or whether you remain single for your whole life, cling to the hope and Truth that Jesus is always the One. He is the lover of your soul. Don’t allow yourself to miss out on the most important One in your life.

    Article: https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/did-you-marry-the-one

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